Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Feast of Our Lady of Lourdes



Isn’t this a beautiful stained glass image? It was sent to be by Rachel Curling of Texas. 
Stained Glass images are so beautiful in color and artistry. I love the detail!  

Rachel pointed out that this is an image representing The Feast of Our Lady of Lourdes which is right around the corner. February 11, 2013! Thanks for sharing this image with me Rachel. And thought you all would appreciate me sharing her generosity with you! Linda Kracht

Rachel's note to me on 2/5/2013:  
Great blog! Thanks so much for sharing!
I think we can help each other. I am a stained glass artist who creates art, but I am not much of a writer. You write, but you could probably use some images to help you get your message across.

February 11th celebrates the Feast of Our Lady of Lourdes. I have attached a stained glass window we made for the occasion. If you want to feature a window as an illustration for one of your blog posts, I would be honored. I would appreciate attribution and a link, something like: “Stained glass window by Stained Glass Inc. www.StainedGlassInc.com “ or “ Stained glass image courtesy of www.StainedGlassInc.com”.

Here is the direct link to the image on our website http://stainedglassinc.com/panel-4000.html#.UQ_sb2eStI0  and a link to the image itself http://stainedglassinc.com/images/glass/panels/large/5520.jpg Please let me know if you choose to use our image. I’d love to see it in your blog.
Thank you and God bless,
Rachel Curling

Daughters Forever, Sons Forever Advice from a Parent in Green Bay




Today, I received this letter from a parent who was part of the Green Bay workshop for parents entitled: Parenting Teens: Building Strong Futures. She offered some personal thoughts and tips for fellow parents who are beginning to use Daughters Forever, Sons Forever with their teen son or daughter. The letter is helpful and she agreed to allow me to share it with you.  Linda Kracht

Dear Parents,
Thank you for attending the "Parenting Teens:  Building Strong Futures" parent workshop on January 19th at Notre Dame.  I hope that you all found it helpful and motivating for your important vocation of parenthood.
Today I am encouraging my husband to work with our sophomore son on chapter 2 in the book.  I have been reading it on my own, also, to be open to discussion and to encourage.  I also know that my husband can get very busy at times and not be able to get to it "weekly".  So I am ready to take over on a given Sunday evening, if he is not home. 
I think the most difficult thing is to maintain a weekly time to set aside.  For instance, tonight the Superbowl is on and our senior son is invited to a Superbowl party at his friend's house after a 7 hour long play practice at school!!  So, my husband plans to work with him one of the school nights this week.  We must plan ahead as we do with anything.  Get out the calendar or the iCal and find the open times, then pencil it in like any other appointment.  After all, this is as important to our spiritual health as a doctor appointment is to our physical health. 
Linda stated at the beginning of her conference that as parents we are each in charge of our own individual families, and this authority is given to us by God.  You know what is best for your children and what your family needs.  Each of our children are individuals and we know and love them more than anyone else.  So each family is unique as well.  As we pray to God the Holy Spirit to give us guidance and learn and follow the teachings of the Catholic Church, we can build the confidence to form and strengthen our families. 
In addition, as Catholics we are united as the family of God.  We need the support of each other to persevere in the faith and formation of our families.  I recommend that if you have a friend that you know who is working on the Daughters Forever, Sons Forever program, that you keep in touch and encourage each other.  You can also find support on Linda Kracht's website, www.fortifyingfamiliesoffaith.com.  She has an interactive blog where you can submit questions or share your knowledge.  I will also check in with you from time to time on email.  Please feel free to contact me with any questions or comments.  You can hit "reply-all" if you wish to share with our group.  I would love to hear of your progress! 
Finally,  I loved Linda's idea of having a family pot luck after we finish the course with our teens. It would be good for our teens to see that others are learning about the gifts of faith, love and life from their parents, too.  I will work on organizing that if we have enough interest.  At this point, I am looking at possibly Sunday, Jan. 19th, 2014.   That should give us plenty of time to get through the program.  We could hand out certificates of completion to each family and celebrate!  It would be great to reflect on the effect it has on our teens and our communication with them. 
Please remember to pray each day for perseverance and open minds and hearts.  God is attentive to the prayers of parents! 
May God Bless you and your families,
Cindy Stillwell
P.S.  If you were unable to order the curriculum for financial reasons, but would like to obtain one, please contact me. 

Tuesday, November 27, 2012

What I Learned....


The Moral Life: Fulfillment in Beatitude (Module Three) began and ended with a bang! This module was very interesting for a number of reasons: professionally, spiritually and personally.  

When living (or at least trying to) a moral life, it seems easier to consider what we have done wrong than realizing what it is that we ought to be doing as faithful Catholics. There is any number of checklists - or examinations of conscience – that list all the possible sins against each of the commandments. On the other hand, there are few lists that make us consider what we ought to doing because of the Ten Commandments and the Beatitudes. All too often, we are just like the young man in the Gospels who thought he was good enough because he had religiously observed all the commandments while failing to consider what more he could have been doing or ought to have been doing. When asked to do one more thing, he walked away.  The question naturally arises: how different are we? You may be interested to know that I have written a book for teens called “Black and White: An Examination of the Moral Life which asks the teens to take into consideration ‘what they ought to be doing ‘simultaneous to their examination of  what they did wrong based on the Beatitudes, the Ten Commandments and the Greatest Commandment. While far short of the Catechism, it hopes to get teens to do more than just try and follow the letter of the law. This is one more reason why this module was particularly interesting to me.

This Module covered many worthwhile topics – so much so that it is almost impossible to summarize them well in a two page paper. Let’s start at the beginning. Deacon Michalak helped us understand the underpinnings of the Ten Commandments by teaching that the commandments are kind of like the tip of the iceberg. There is way more to the Ten Commandments than meets the eye. For example, the Pharisees probably followed the Ten Commandments but needed to do a whole lot more than follow the letter of the law. All of us ought to consider that we ought to want to follow the Ten Commandments because they are designed by God and for specific reasons. What are those reasons? The Ten Commandments are many things including the following. They are a test of our love, a challenge to do better and a standard to live up. They beg us to ‘put on’ virtue, discern truth and strive for authentic freedom when we obey them for all the right reasons.  But even they are not enough to get us to heaven if you consider the parable of the Rich Young Man. We learned that authentic freedom helps us choose well because it is aided by virtue rather than vice.  

Deacon Michalak (a great teacher) pointed out that we can’t understand the purpose of the Commandments unless we understand the underpinnings or foundations from which they were built and that St Thomas Aquinas found these to be more interesting than the actual Ten Commandments.  St. Thomas’ natural intelligence, wisdom and theological interests point to his holy purpose in life: to help the rest of us (millennia later) to better understand these underpinnings. Most of us could not have found this purpose in life as interesting or purposeful as Thomas must have - even though it sure was worthwhile considering how immemorial his teachings are. St. Thomas helps us learn  how to evaluate human behavior; discern moral actions vs. immoral actions; understand the natural Hierarchy of Happiness; avoid  sin, understand virtue (Cardinal, Theological, natural)  evaluate moral norms, understand Natural Law and the Conscience. He also helped develop the  Twelve Steps leading up to and including the action itself.  The University of St. Thomas has a worthy patron saint – unfortunately one theology professor seems in need of a refresher course in the Catechism considering that one young man recently told me that this man questions the principle of infallibility.

We learned that the moral life is a journey into spiritual maturity whereas the immoral life is a journey into hell. Everybody does not attain spiritual maturity for obvious reasons: sin, vice, lack of faith, etc. This journey to the final Goal – or away from it -  is always dynamic ; it is never static. Even when we aren’t moving toward God we are moving away from Him. The spiritual journey re-shapes us whether we realize it or not. The longer we walk the more perfected we ought to be getting. Holiness is matured by grace; it is through grace that we begin to live the moral life – the baby steps taken towards  holiness. Eventually, we blossom into everlasting happiness. On the other hand, ungodliness grows by means of putting on vice rather than virtue. Those who arrive at Hell do so by having perfected the trinitarian partnership of me; myself and I. Sin collapses the world around us sinking us into the narrowest of relationships – one that has room only for myself.   

The synthesis of the Hierarchy of Happiness was interesting in light of today’s misunderstandings about pleasure and happiness. America seems doomed to unhappiness given the fact that we fail to preserve basic necessary principles including the appreciation for all human life; a basic respect for Natural Law and common good; practice of the Golden Rule, etc. Too many fail to appreciate that freedom is the ability to do what we ought to do in order to obtain the greater good and the Greatest Good. Freedom is too often defined as my ability to do what I want, when I want, and how I want.  It is plain to see that this misunderstanding will only continue to shrink our ability to “do what we ought to do…” While there is no rivalry between genuine freedom and grace, there is always going to be rivalry between vice and genuine freedom because the former impedes the latter.  Vice pulls us inward whereas authentic freedom prompts us to regard the  common good for all and for the Greatest Good.

The discussion about virtue was really interesting to me. Virtue is our capacity to do good for others. It is the freedom to act with excellence. I had never before considered virtue as the boundaries of the football field wherein the game is played. It is true; nobody would enjoy participating or watching any sport without clearly defined winners, losers, and rules. The same goes for real life even though many people today suggest that we don’t need to live by the rules or tally up the wins and losses in the game of Life and Love (loss: abortion, disease, divorce, same sex attractions, vs. wins: stable family life, authentic love, joyful children, etc). We can readily observe how Law sustains reality while Goals keep us within the bounds. It should be readily apparent that only God gets to define reality because he created it! Creatures can enjoy reality but they can’t re-define or define it. After all, moral order and reality can lead in only one direction. It is either truth or it isn’t. Only God is the source of constant goodness. He never changes. We can all share God at once. Only he never runs out of love or life. There is always more to know about God. We will never be able to exhaust Him or his love. This is the only truthful reality; every other reality is manmade and therefore fallible, destructible, erodible and conditional.  It’s a good reminder that “an act is not morally upright because the Church says it is so but because is it objectively good and that’s why the Church says it is so!

The theological virtues (Faith, Hope Charity) along with the Cardinal virtues perfect our will which in turn make us more human. Prudence is the most important Cardinal virtue; imprudence is the lack of the cardinal virtues: fortitude, justice, prudence, and wisdom. Fr. Klockman mentioned that all of us are weak in especially one Theological virtues and one Cardinal virtue. We were asked to consider which virtue(s) are our Achilles Heal because that is where we will most likely be tempted and attacked by the evil one. Father also mentioned that through the very wounds  (sin) that we inflict upon Christ, become the fountain for every lasting life when we lay our sins at his holy feet. Ironically, our sin can become the way to love Christ more and more. It is also the way to move away from Christ more and more. What we do matters here and now and for all eternity.   

We learned that our conscience is not like Jiminy Cricket who kept reminding Pinocchio to stop lying. Rather our consciences are the result of judging rightly all along; it is our witness to the truth as we already know it. It is the fruit of our capacity to reason well.  In other words, it will not be superior to the formation process we have undertaken.   

There were so many other points that were interesting so let me capture them in the remaining paragraphs. Pope Pius Xll said the loss of the sense of sin was the greatest sin of the 20th Century. Moral relativism seems one and the same as the loss of the sense of sin and so other than this, what is the greatest sin of the 21st Century? Redefining sin itself?

Child formation involves getting the kid out of the kid ( was a great line of Deacon Dan). He also said that every action leads to either sin or grace.

Words matter as this Communication Era rapidly redefines is and was. Consider how moral evils have become accepted ways of life just by changing the lingo used when describing them. Abortions no longer talk about lives lost but choices made; babies are called fetus or tissue; contraception has been labeled to be a woman’s health issue and the responsible way to plan families; sodomy is now just a same sex attraction; etc.  

 
The Ten Commandment discussions were very good. They certainly are just the tip of the iceberg until you begin to study the depth of their command in light of the Beatitudes and the Greatest Commandment. This has been another very fulfilling semester. Thank you for all the teachers and staff.

Sunday, November 11, 2012

The Great Divide

The election left me and about 4 million one hundred sixty two thousand and one hundred and seventy three people wishing for different results; at the same time, 4, 236, 032 people were pleased, relieved and happy. Why this great divide? And it is great! We are a nation that is nearly split evenly in half with regard to knowing how to solve the economy, social politics, racial differences, helping the poor, religion, international political problems, etc. Essentially we have two opposing worldviews colliding with each other. And they have been a long time in the making.

Here is the million dollar question: how do the opposite worldviews merge into one without either side losing its sense of identity and purpose. Is it even possible to blend opposing views into one that is sensitive and respectful of the other?

When looking at the Great Divide in the US, it becomes much easier to grasp why areas of the world like Europe, the Middle East, and others have split into such small countries! Colliding worldviews obviously caused them to split, subdivide, subdivide further, fragment, and/or even get swallowed up by a neighboring country with or without their permission. It explains why wars begin. It explains why ties get broken. It explains why neighbors stop talking to each other. It explains why families split. This explains why  Texans keep threatening to become their own nation.

The Obama administration gets one thing right: they understand the undercurrent that is going on in this country. I would bet they use these undercurrents to get out the vote on their behalf. So while the rest of us were scratching our heads  and wondering why the President employed such polarizing messages during the election, it now makes perfect sense. He used the obvious (to him at least) lack of faith among so many to demonize spiritual and religious principles such as religious freedom and pro-life message, and traditional marriage by employing argruments related to contraception, abortion, etc. He used the obvious slide from traditional values to promote 'being chums with everyone' except those holding onto traditional values. He used moral relativism (rampant in this country according to a Marist poll (2009) to help push against those who define marriage between one man and one woman while arguing that this group of poeple are bigots and haters. He used the screw-ups on wall street (there always are and always will be these situtations)  to cement the idea that business is dirty even though that is how most people have the standards of living they have. The argument lost on many is that capitalism isn't all bad but socialism isn't all good.

Did this great divide occur overnight? No, it snuck up on us like that thieve in the night. While some think the sexual revolution took place in the sixties and seventies, they fail to realize that way back in the 20's and 30's, academia argued for and against monogamy and marriage. Cultures were studied, statements were issued. Slowly but surely, the devil convinced many not to completely abandon God but to have one foot in the secular world and one in the spiritual world. And as we know, a house divided cannot stand. And so principles, dogmas, belief systems, and attitudes changed which in turn changed worldviews of the culture and of the people in general. It took population concerns to change attitudes about monogamy, sexuality, marriage gradually. It took acceptance of contraception to change attitudes with regard to abortion. It took both of these to pave the way for same sex marriage. It will take this to bring about the right to exercise utilitarianism with regard to aging populations who cost too much too treat. It will take all of this acceptance to bring about persecution of those who are just not very accepting! These persecutions will only prove who really is the most unaccepting people of all and they tend to be the ones carrying the water for the day.

While some argue that the US is headed down the wrong path, how can we really know which way is the right way when we have one foot in the secular world and one in the religious world? While the conversion to secularism took many decades and many generations, it will take just as many to reverse the trend if we are willing and able. That is the New Evangelization.

What is your worldview? Where do you stand? What do you think about all of this? Are you ready to stand up and be counted by choosing which foot you really want to stand on?